november 19, 2009: the other day i was chatting with a good friend of mine and she suggested that my reply to her should be put on my blog. so here it is..........
"we are 2 deleriously delightful women. the thing is..............when one is as "D-D" as we, its hard to find a man who can possibly measure up to our expectations. or to our level of delightfulness."
"of course, we also dont have to deal with a "couch potato" 24/7, nor ask permission to come or go, or spend money, etc. we also do laundry for only ourselves, take out only OUR trash, toilet paper lasts longer, we do dishes for one, we pick up after ourselves and noone else, BUT..............................we are stuck w/mowing our own yards or paying to get it done, and paying to get our car fixed, & just a few other inconveniences. yepper.........we can either pay to get er done or learn to take care of business ourselves. lol!"
"i can live w/all of this. single is the way to go. my house, my rules, my chair, my blanket, my icecream, my TV, and most importantly.....MY REMOTE CONTROL!!! mine, mine, mine. its really not selfish. its just plain simpler."
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
who r u? :) or :(
11/16/09
hi everyone! whew! life is just one big roller coaster, isnt it? sometimes the same coasters are bigger and scarrier than usual, sometimes we are pushed into the line where we are forced into getting on a brand new roller coaster and we know its going to be scarrier than we think we can handle. and yet we battle for first in line.
we run around and fight for first in line and then complain about how bad it was or is. maybe we should just slow down a bit and assess the situation before jumping in way over our heads. our emotions rule the roost. this should not be.
events happen: we have no control over events happening (they just are)
thoughts come: we have no control over thoughts that enter our heads (we do,
however, have total control over how long we dwell on that thought)
emotions happen: we have no control over emotions that come about as a result of
that thought (we do, however,have total control over how long we
wallow in that emotion)
action/reactions: we have TOTAL control over how we act or react. we must
practice and learn to choose to ACT......no react.
sometimes, life can just suck. sometimes we miss the peace, joy, and beauty in our days because we're so busy stressing over stuff that hasnt even happened yet. (and may not) stress clouds the thinking, disrupts healthy sleep (which will also cloud the thinking), and we invest so much mental, physical and even spiritual energy in feeding the stress (dwelling on it and retelling it over and over)that we drain our healthy resources.
the last few weeks have been very draining for me and the rest of the staff here at trinity. its been unlike any time ive experienced in my almost 20 yrs in this dept. i allowed myself to slip into major negative thinking and talking. yes, and whining. over and over again, to anyone who would listen. many who agreed. the fact is that it took almost 3 weeks of sinking into this self made pit of stress and the big black whole, which was getting bigger by the telling and retelling. i finally realized it and enlisted a couple of my closest friends and my adult kids, to lovingly point out to me when i was getting chronically negative. hey, we all have our moments or days when we need to vent, but when most of what is coming out of our mouths is negative, then we need to stop and look at "us".
gratefully, i worked very hard for a long time to aquire the pollyanna type of personality that i have. or at least had until the last few weeks. i just simply "got lost" in the "down the drain" menatality that i was wallowing in multi times a day. finally when the stress began to show up in my sleep and my neck and shoulders were contstanly paining me, something snapped in me and i woke up to my part in keeping this negative attitude alive and well in karyn's world. this is the longest its ever lasted and the longest it has taken me to realize i was sinking, in many years.
its truely scary how quickly stress, anger, resentments, and depression can grab ahold and set up housekeeping in your mind and body. the only prescription needed is an attitude of gratitude. begin focusing and verbalizing things youre grateful for. remember the ole saying: SHIT HAPPENS? well, it does and it happens to everyone, everywhere...........all the time. its not what happens to you........its how you handle what happens to you.
i think mark twain said it best: "i have been thru some terrible things in my life...some of which actually happened!"
refuse to borrow troubles from tomorrow............todays sorrows are sufficient for today. today is all we have. this moment is all we have.................
what are you going to do with this moment. it is yours to do with as YOU choose!!!
be well, and look on the sunny side of life. :)
hi everyone! whew! life is just one big roller coaster, isnt it? sometimes the same coasters are bigger and scarrier than usual, sometimes we are pushed into the line where we are forced into getting on a brand new roller coaster and we know its going to be scarrier than we think we can handle. and yet we battle for first in line.
we run around and fight for first in line and then complain about how bad it was or is. maybe we should just slow down a bit and assess the situation before jumping in way over our heads. our emotions rule the roost. this should not be.
events happen: we have no control over events happening (they just are)
thoughts come: we have no control over thoughts that enter our heads (we do,
however, have total control over how long we dwell on that thought)
emotions happen: we have no control over emotions that come about as a result of
that thought (we do, however,have total control over how long we
wallow in that emotion)
action/reactions: we have TOTAL control over how we act or react. we must
practice and learn to choose to ACT......no react.
sometimes, life can just suck. sometimes we miss the peace, joy, and beauty in our days because we're so busy stressing over stuff that hasnt even happened yet. (and may not) stress clouds the thinking, disrupts healthy sleep (which will also cloud the thinking), and we invest so much mental, physical and even spiritual energy in feeding the stress (dwelling on it and retelling it over and over)that we drain our healthy resources.
the last few weeks have been very draining for me and the rest of the staff here at trinity. its been unlike any time ive experienced in my almost 20 yrs in this dept. i allowed myself to slip into major negative thinking and talking. yes, and whining. over and over again, to anyone who would listen. many who agreed. the fact is that it took almost 3 weeks of sinking into this self made pit of stress and the big black whole, which was getting bigger by the telling and retelling. i finally realized it and enlisted a couple of my closest friends and my adult kids, to lovingly point out to me when i was getting chronically negative. hey, we all have our moments or days when we need to vent, but when most of what is coming out of our mouths is negative, then we need to stop and look at "us".
gratefully, i worked very hard for a long time to aquire the pollyanna type of personality that i have. or at least had until the last few weeks. i just simply "got lost" in the "down the drain" menatality that i was wallowing in multi times a day. finally when the stress began to show up in my sleep and my neck and shoulders were contstanly paining me, something snapped in me and i woke up to my part in keeping this negative attitude alive and well in karyn's world. this is the longest its ever lasted and the longest it has taken me to realize i was sinking, in many years.
its truely scary how quickly stress, anger, resentments, and depression can grab ahold and set up housekeeping in your mind and body. the only prescription needed is an attitude of gratitude. begin focusing and verbalizing things youre grateful for. remember the ole saying: SHIT HAPPENS? well, it does and it happens to everyone, everywhere...........all the time. its not what happens to you........its how you handle what happens to you.
i think mark twain said it best: "i have been thru some terrible things in my life...some of which actually happened!"
refuse to borrow troubles from tomorrow............todays sorrows are sufficient for today. today is all we have. this moment is all we have.................
what are you going to do with this moment. it is yours to do with as YOU choose!!!
be well, and look on the sunny side of life. :)
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